Why we need to grieve in community

We’ve spent more than a year grieving in isolation and participating in memorial services and funerals via live internet feeds. While it was the best that we could do under extraordinary circumstances, it was by no means a reasonable substitute. Logging in to attend such a service made us observers, viewers behind curtains that neverContinue reading “Why we need to grieve in community”

Why I quit my job

From the Gospel According to Brene Brown: “Midlife is when the universe gently places her hands upon your shoulders, pulls you close, and whispers in your ear: I’m not screwing around. All of this pretending and performing – these coping mechanisms that you’ve developed to protect yourself from feeling inadequate and getting hurt – hasContinue reading “Why I quit my job”

The Joys of Reconnecting with Friends

Last week, The Good Doctors Fauci and Walensky announced that it was time for those of us who are fully vaccinated and immunized to drop the masks. They say that the vaccine is working very well, better than expected even, in stopping the advance of the virus. The big day for our community farmer’s marketContinue reading “The Joys of Reconnecting with Friends”

WFH or a $30K raise? What’s your choice?

It’s May 15, 2021. I’ve had both doses of the Pfizer Bio n-Tech vaccine and it’s been more than two weeks since my last injection. Science and the CDC now say that I am good to go without a mask.* I have to admit that I’m not entirely sure how I feel about this news.Continue reading “WFH or a $30K raise? What’s your choice?”

Rewind: A Faithful Pilgrim Continues to Lead by Example

This post originally appeared on Friday, March 27, 2009 on The View from the Porch A Faithful Pilgrim Continues to Lead by Example A small group of our middle schoolers met at our church this week with their moms. We had two fifth grade boys and one seventh grade boy take part in a FaithContinue reading “Rewind: A Faithful Pilgrim Continues to Lead by Example”

A tight-knit bond

I’m 56 years old. I honestly thought that I was past intensive hands-on parenting. I have found myself administering liquid pink “bubble gum” medicine, better known as amoxicillin. I have bought diapers and waterproof pads. I have been awakened nearly every morning for nearly three years by the sound of someone who wanted me toContinue reading “A tight-knit bond”

How’s your mental health these days?

Mental Health Awareness Month is recognized annually in May. Where I live, May is lovely, green, and lush. In Iowa, we’re plotting, planning, and planting our gardens and pots. We still enjoy mowing the yard. The patios and parks are open and inviting with the longer days and warmer temperatures. The scents of lilac andContinue reading “How’s your mental health these days?”


My sincere thanks to Judy Singer, a sociologist and a person on the autism spectrum, who began to use this term in 1998 to describe those of us with brains that work on a different software platform than neurotypicals. Neurodivergent and neurotypical are brand-new terms to me, and maybe they are new terms to youContinue reading “Neurodivergent”

Where the sky stops and the earth begins

We are deep into winter here in Iowa and it’s been a while since we’ve seen sunshine, blue sky, or even double digit temperatures above zero. When it’s cloudy like this, the sky and the snow-covered ground are the same color and it’s hard to tell where the sky stops and the earth begins. AContinue reading “Where the sky stops and the earth begins”